When Your Mom Isn’t Who You Need Right Now (And Why That’s Totally Okay)
When Your Mom Isn’t Who You Need Right Now
(and that’s okay)
Let’s go ahead and say it out loud:
Sometimes your mom isn’t the person you need in this moment.
And guess what?
This doesn’t make you a bad daughter.
It doesn’t mean you’re ungrateful.
It doesn’t mean you don’t love her.
It means you’re human.
It means your relationship with your mom is real.
And real relationships (especially between mothers and daughters) can be emotionally electric: one minute you’re besties laughing on the phone and the next you’re shutting down mid-text because she just doesn’t get it.
If this hits, please know you’re not alone.
You’re Evolving, and That’s Hard on Both of You
Being a high school senior or college girl means you’re going through a lot of change.
Academic pressure, friend drama, relationship issues, roommate weirdness, career questions... it’s overwhelming.
And even though your mom may love you deeply, sometimes her words feel off, her advice feels outdated, or her reactions feel too big.
Maybe you’re dealing with something you don’t want her to know.
Maybe you’re afraid she’ll worry.
Maybe she’ll get mad.
Or maybe you just need a conversation that doesn’t come with the entire family history and an emotional outburst.
You’re not wrong for feeling that way.
It’s Normal to Need Someone Else to Talk To
Sometimes, what you really need is:
Someone who will listen without jumping to conclusions
Someone who won’t judge you for what you’re feeling
Someone who can help you think clearly without piling on guilt
Someone who helps you figure out what to do next
That’s where I come in.
I’ve spent decades supporting teen girls and college women, first as a high school assistant principal and English teacher, and now as a life coach for college and teen girls.
I know how overwhelming this time in your life can feel.
You’re trying to grow into your independence while still being connected to the people who raised you.
That’s hard.
But you don’t have to figure it all out on your own.
And you don’t have to pretend you’re fine when you’re not.
What You Can Do Right Now
If this blog post speaks to you, consider it your gentle nudge to book a free mini life coaching session with me.
We’ll talk about what’s been weighing on your heart and how to move through it.
No pressure. No judgment. Just support, clarity, and the space to breathe again.
Because sometimes, the most loving thing you can do, for yourself and your mom, is to get the support you need from someone else.
I remember the women who helped guide me when I was a teenager, and they were essential in creating the foundation of who I am today.
It was nothing against my own mother, I just needed a different perspective.
You’re stronger than you think you are, and I’ve always got your back.
🩵, Suzanne
